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Have you ever had someone look at you with absolutely no judgment?

That moment, when someone actually sees you for you, all of you, and knows that nothing is, was, or ever will be wrong with you, changes everything.

Experiencing this can be one of the most caring, nurturing and even seductive experiences in the world.

There are even psychological studies that suggest it only takes four minutes of direct eye contact for strangers to fall in love.

Recently Amnesty International took this one step further. They tested the 4 min idea in a more fragile situation; the refugee crisis in Europe and the increasing xenophobia.

They asked a number of Europeans and refugees to stare into each other’s eyes for 4 minutes.

This is what happened:

See, we’ve been trained to start every new encounter by a series of judgment to determine where this person fits into our pre-defined version of reality. We’ve basically been programmed to separate.

What if that training is what is in the way for a different future of the world?

What if oneness is actually much easier than you’ve ever imagined?

What if just a few minutes of eye contact could create that space of no judgment when you can see who this person actually…be? 

Would you be willing to try this out? Today?

Ask someone, maybe even someone you’re not having an easy time with, to share a gaze with you for four minutes.

No other instructions or distractions. Put a timer on, stay present and look into each other’s eyes.

Then see what changes for the both of you.

Dain

The Power of Non-Polarity

February 1, 2016 — 3 Comments

Anger, rage, fury, hate, judgment, and our love of trauma and drama and separation are the greatest toxic wastes on the planet. And, it’s the toxic waste we could most easily change – if we choose to.

But ONLY if we choose to.

If we want to change the world, we need to stop our reliance on such harsh, outdated modes of beingness. Unless we start asking some different questions, we don’t have a chance to fundamentally change the way we function on this planet with each other.

So what’s the antidote to the anger, rage, fury, hate, judgment, and separation?

Consciousness, non-polarity, and the willingness to change and eliminate the separation that you believe defines you.

When I watched the video of this amazing man, Antoine Leiris, who lost his wife in the Paris attacks, I was inspired again by the power of not choosing ‘sides’, of not hating, and of not choosing anger. Instead as Antoine says, he and his 10 month-old son, choosing happiness instead of hate, is more powerful than all the world’s armies.

That is the power of non-polarity.

Watch Antoine’s reading his letter, his tribute to his wife, in the short video below.

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What if something completely different is possible?

For all of us? With all of us. Together?

We no longer have to function according to the rules of this reality, because doing so has created the seemingly impossible mess we are currently in. We require something different.

Now.

Please know, it is actually a choice to not be conscious and to stay in polarity. Just as it is a choice to be conscious, to be aware and to choose the power and potency of non-polarity.

What would you like to choose?

Dain