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Have you ever had someone look at you with absolutely no judgment?

That moment, when someone actually sees you for you, all of you, and knows that nothing is, was, or ever will be wrong with you, changes everything.

Experiencing this can be one of the most caring, nurturing and even seductive experiences in the world.

There are even psychological studies that suggest it only takes four minutes of direct eye contact for strangers to fall in love.

Recently Amnesty International took this one step further. They tested the 4 min idea in a more fragile situation; the refugee crisis in Europe and the increasing xenophobia.

They asked a number of Europeans and refugees to stare into each other’s eyes for 4 minutes.

This is what happened:

See, we’ve been trained to start every new encounter by a series of judgment to determine where this person fits into our pre-defined version of reality. We’ve basically been programmed to separate.

What if that training is what is in the way for a different future of the world?

What if oneness is actually much easier than you’ve ever imagined?

What if just a few minutes of eye contact could create that space of no judgment when you can see who this person actually…be? 

Would you be willing to try this out? Today?

Ask someone, maybe even someone you’re not having an easy time with, to share a gaze with you for four minutes.

No other instructions or distractions. Put a timer on, stay present and look into each other’s eyes.

Then see what changes for the both of you.

Dain

We all create something different in the world. We are all unique. That’s why every chance I get I ask people, “What if you, truly being you, are the gift, the change and the possibility this world requires?”

Meet 16 year old entrepreneur Maya Penn, who reminded me again when watching this video –  EVERYTHING you do contributes to the world in some way, even if you don’t see it or get it right away.  You, being you, creates the change you’ve always known should be possible.

By creating what she loves, Maya IS changing the world. Click HERE to watch the video below.

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So my friends, what future would you like to create? As Maya says, ‘the smallest actions lead to the biggest change’.

If you’d like to start your own business – great. Or create a non-profit – awesome.

But what if all of those outward creations that get acknowledged all come from truly being you?

What if that smallest action that changes everything is your choice to be you, in every moment, of every day, no matter what the situation?

You are the future. What would you like to create?

Until next time,

Dain

PS – Recently, I was on a global telecall with four other amazing leaders talking about Benevolent Capitalism & Leadership and being a catalyst for change in the world. You can catch the replay of that call, which was the launch of the BenCapTalks Series, by clicking HERE.

Have you ever felt dissatisfied? Are you always wanting more and do you know that it’s possible?

What if that wasn’t a wrongness? What if that ache of dissatisfaction is a gift and capacity? What if that is what drives your life forward?

What if dissatisfaction is what shows up when you know there is a possibility that you could be choosing — and haven’t yet?

In South Africa, my friend Gary Douglas and I recorded a special video about the hidden gift behind the dissatisfaction…

Would you like to know more? Click on the video below!

If you start to get the greatness of you, and your dissatisfaction, things will get better not only for you, but for all of us!

What if you are the gift, the possibility and the change this world requires my friend?

Hope to see you somewhere in the world soon, 🙂

Dain

PS – Gary Douglas & I will be facilitating an evening class, Losing the Ache of Dissatisfaction, March 10th live in Paris and livestreamed online. Would you like to join us? Click HERE to sign up!

Earth is Our Home

November 18, 2015 — 2 Comments

Yes, the Earth is big. Probably way bigger than any of us can imagine… Just tap into the ever-reaching mountains touching the heavens … the blue, bottomless ocean …  and the softest sand dancing with the dunes of the desert.

If there is one thing I would like you to get from this video, it is that: The Earth is big. And we all share it.

It is our home. 

And yes, I only mention the Paris attacks in this video. I am not even trying to get the list right. It is too long. Too many beautiful amazing places on Earth have been hit by terrorism. Beirut, Nairobi, New York, Moscow… What occurs for one of us occurs for all of us!

It is time for change. 

So I am using Paris to show you something about you. You, my friend, have a choice. 

You have a choice of who you be in the face of tragedy.

You have a choice of you would like to be on this Earth.

Will you go for the trauma and drama — or will you be the possibility of something completely different?

Is now the time?

Click below to watch the video.

Be you.

Dain

PS. I wrote an article for the Huffington Post called ‘Not on Our Watch’. If you would like to explore what Tomorrowland could truly be like, go HERE to read it.

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Are you one of those people that is interested in LOTS of different things?  Maybe you’re like me and bright, shiny new things make you happy? 🙂

Have you ever jumped in the deep end of something new and found that you can swim quite well?  But then maybe later (often pretty quickly), you get bored. It’s not challenging anymore. It’s not fun.  You’re ready to move on, yet you make yourself wrong for not being able to commit, not sticking with something, and not finding your ‘purpose’ in life.

What if you didn’t have to make yourself wrong anymore? What if this ‘wrongness’ is actually a strongness?

In our culture, we’ve been told that you should feel like a failure if you don’t find your purpose – a jack of all trades and master of none.  This idea – that you have to find your destiny and your one true calling, and if you don’t figure it out, you have somehow failed or are terribly wrong…does that make you feel light or heavy?

What’s true always makes you feel lighter.  A lie always makes you feel heavier.

I have a question for you my friends – what if you are a master of all trades and a jack of none? What if you’re more brilliant and gifted than you’ve ever acknowledged? Does that make you feel lighter or heavier?

What if you didn’t have to choose just one thing? What if you didn’t have to limit your menu of choice at all?

What if instead, one of your greatest gifts, was the capacity to learn new things, to adapt, and to be able to choose anything and everything you would like to?

As I watched this amazing TED Talk about ‘multipotentialites’ (a great term created by Emilie Wapnick), I was reminded once again of the brilliance that each of us has by continuing to choose, seek, and explore more of what is possible.

Welcome to the world of infinite possibilities my friends!

Dain

One of the laws of the universe is ask and you shall receive.
You’ve heard of this, yes?

Yet how often do we truly ask?

And if we do ask for something, how often do we feel guilty or shameful or undeserving?

In this TED Talk on “The Art of Asking”, Amanda Palmer talks about connecting with people through the very act of asking. And the power of asking from a space of raw vulnerability.

When we ask of the universe and of others, there is a softness and beauty of the simultaneity of gifting and receiving that can occur. It’s not about being deserving and having to do something to earn it. What if it’s as simple as truly being us and just asking?

As Amanda says, what if we could “face each other and give and receive fearlessly?”

Check out this video for more on the power of asking, and what can show up when we are willing to be seen and truly see others.

What if you are way, way greater than you’ve decided you are?

What if who you be right now is just the starting point of an adventure of what you can create yourself as?

What I’ve noticed is that the normal, average and real is really just a mask that most people learned to hide behind. And when someone let’s the mask fall, and becomes real and authentic, there is this huge mutual sigh of relief from everyone around. Suddenly everyone breathes easier and becomes more ALIVE — all from that one person dropping the mask.

The strange thing is that WE ALL KNOW THIS.

All through our lives, we try to peek behind other’s masks, to see who they really are. We often fall in love with just a small, tiny glimps of who someone truly is. The movies we adore, the stories that touch us the deepest, they are all about people showing up as the greatness they truly be. Something — circumstances, crisis, death, war, catastrophe — pushes them beyond the box of the normal they bought as real, and as their barriers fall, they SOAR.

We’re touched since we know this to be true, in ourselves. We actually know we are so much more than what we decided we are.

What if you let your mask fall now? What if you don’t need be pushed off the cliff?What could you receive? What could you be? What could you inspire in the world?

And please know, this is not hard work. It is actually way easier than keeping the mask on!

You, truly being you, has a smile to it. The soft smile of the lightness of being.

Dain

PS – Are you ready to be everything you are with no apology? Watch the replay below (in English and French!) of a recent Being You, Changing the World Book Club Google Hangout,