Archives For Vulnerability

One of the laws of the universe is ask and you shall receive.
You’ve heard of this, yes?

Yet how often do we truly ask?

And if we do ask for something, how often do we feel guilty or shameful or undeserving?

In this TED Talk on “The Art of Asking”, Amanda Palmer talks about connecting with people through the very act of asking. And the power of asking from a space of raw vulnerability.

When we ask of the universe and of others, there is a softness and beauty of the simultaneity of gifting and receiving that can occur. It’s not about being deserving and having to do something to earn it. What if it’s as simple as truly being us and just asking?

As Amanda says, what if we could “face each other and give and receive fearlessly?”

Check out this video for more on the power of asking, and what can show up when we are willing to be seen and truly see others.

Success from Vulnerability?

December 7, 2013 — 3 Comments

Success from vulnerability? Is that actually possible? For many of us, vulnerability is something we have avoided. We have bought the point of view that, “If I’m vulnerable, I will be hurt, people will take advantage of me and I will in some way lose.”

What if that weren’t true? What if vulnerability was something totally different than what we have decided it is? What if vulnerability actually gives you access to the gifts, talents and abilities which are truly you, thereby allowing you to succeed?

Vulnerability is the place where you exist with no barriers, no walls. It’s the place of total potency, total power, total capacity; in contrast to what you’re told. It’s actually the place where you see the greatness of somebody else and you’re willing to have them be it, and you don’t try to detract them from it, and you also can be the greatness of you.

This reality tells us that in order to be somebody in this world, in order to be successful and to be important, in order to win and not lose, in order to benefit, we have to create an image. An image is something that you portray, that you try to get people to see you as, which is actually the antithesis of vulnerability.

Here’s the trouble with image, when you create anything based on an image, whether it be family, business, relationship, money, fame, your body, or anything else, in order to maintain and uphold these things, you have to maintain and uphold your image. You have to uphold the image in order to have what you created from that image. And truly, vulnerability is saying, “Enough of the image! Enough of the fame! Enough of the money! I don’t care if I have any of this anymore. I’ll have ME NOW!”

Are you willing to let go of the image you have created and to truly have you? Are you willing to step into a new level of vulnerability with yourself?

I wonder what choosing to have vulnerability in the face of everything will create?

– Dain Heer